3 days agoI Am I Here to Be Right, or to Be Collaborative?Today I held hands with a friend in celebration of being with each other as people who think and feel about what we think and feel about, and how that creates a context of collaboration. I feel joy about this because I think that even a month ago, I may…Right And Wrong3 min readRight And Wrong3 min read
Feb 5Beyond Modern Culture’s Paradigm of Collusion/CollisionWhile processing the experience of having lived 50 years in Modern Culture, I have discerned that successful Modern Culture game players play within a contextual spectrum of Collide or Collude. At the high end of the Collision spectrum, literal battles are waged as people (including people acting as Nations and…Possibility4 min readPossibility4 min read
Feb 2More Culty StuffI happened to be staying in St Albert, AB, Canada, where the former gathering place for John deRuiter’s followers is located, during the same week the news of his arrest on charges of sexual offence was released. A Google search brought up headlines like “Staring Cult Leader Charged with Sex…Cult4 min readCult4 min read
Jan 12Space Holding: an Essential Skillset for AllI see three kinds of space holders in my world: The first kind are people who have a high degree of competence for holding space: for listening, being patient, giving people in their lives a lot of room to share, feel and speak. Until they hit a limiting edge. These…Holding Space5 min readHolding Space5 min read
Jan 8The Cost of LivingI worked in a superstore in a past life, and I remember one day sitting on my break, up in the staff room overlooking the huge store and ‘seeing’ what would be included in the cost of each thing sold there: my wages, the wages of my manager, and her…4 min read4 min read
Dec 24, 2022Beyond BelongingI’m not interested in belonging any more. I can hardly believe I can say that, that I am saying it. The longing to belong has flooded and filled my system for as long as I can remember. …Belonging4 min readBelonging4 min read
Dec 14, 2022A Week of No ‘Thank You’sA Week of No ‘Thank You’s Christine Durschner and I were sitting on the couch in the Possibility Coaching Bridge-House kitchen. I can’t recall what we were in such a deep space about but I was touched by what she offered and I said, “Thank you.” Something went subtly wonky…Thank You3 min readThank You3 min read
Dec 7, 2022Feeling My Way to the VillageI have never experienced such a high intensity of sadness moving through my system as I did yesterday during an Emotional Healing Process with Martin Salanda* holding the space. It began with pain in my head and eyes and shoulders, and fear of the anger and resentment I have had…Ecovillage5 min readEcovillage5 min read
Nov 18, 2022What is Really Happening In T/Here?This question — versions of it — have been proving valuable in my life. I ask myself, “What is really going on, here, inside me?” I ask others, including you, “What is happening with you right now, inside, truly?” Questions like this are gateways to authentic and honest relating, if…Intimacy3 min readIntimacy3 min read
Aug 20, 2022A New Cult for ChildhoodWhat is it like to have been raised in a Cult? Yes, I am asking you. You weren’t raised in a cult? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? A cult is a place where unless you hand over your life and/or your money, you are excluded. Where unless you tow the line…Culture4 min readCulture4 min read
